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About Me

I’m a gay traveler, foodie and lawyer, with a serious case of wanderlust. I’ve been fortunate enough to travel full-time (for six months as a backpacker around Southeast Asia in 2015), during my education and through work/during vacations (gotta pay those pesky student loans). I’m always seeking my next adventure and currently seeking to balance a legal career and travel. Here’s a bit about me.

In 2008, I boarded a plane for Costa Rica. It was my first travel experience outside of the United States and absolutely changed my life. Since then, I’ve become a global junkie. I’m addicted to the world and everything it has to offer. I love meeting people, learning new languages and exploring cultures through food, film, fashion, literature, art and politics. I’ve lived in Buenos Aires, London, New York, Yangon and Mumbai – taking every opportunity to travel from those bases and explore local scenes. It’s safe to say I’m addicted to travel (I’m also addicted to coffee but that’s another matter entirely). When I grow up, I want to be like Anthony Bourdain.

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That’s me! Gay traveler, foodie and lawyer, pausing for a photo opportunity in Phuket, Thailand.

I’m also an adventurer and risk-taker.  There is no place that I won’t (eventually) go and nothing that I won’t try.  The more off-the-beaten path a place is, the more I’m going to like it.  Street food is awesome and a meal with a local is even better.  I’m also gay and love to explore a city’s gay side (they all have one), meet other gay travelers (across the entire LGBTQ+ spectrum) and learn from local LGBTQ people what it’s like for them, the challenges they face, etc. What better way to explore a city then through a local’s eyes or by putting away that map/guidebook and getting lost?

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  1. Jennifer December 21, 2015 - 12:11 pm Reply

    I’m almost 50, and I’ve struggled with the American Dream all my life. When my last child graduates from high school (year and a half), I’ll be downsizing drastically.

    In terms of your debt, I spent this past weekend reading two blogs I wanted to share with you:

    Also, IMHO, parents need to start encouraging/requiring their children to save money from jobs during high school to go towards college (even if it only helps a little). Far too many young people are using ‘their’ money to play with from a young age, instead of learning responsible spending habits.

    Also, I encouraged my children to stay home and work/save, THEN go to college, rather than getting loans that they’d later have to work to pay back.

    Lastly, I also remind my children that the jobs their dad and I currently have, we created ourselves and have nothing to do with what we studied at university.

    • highsocietyhobo December 21, 2015 - 9:45 pm Reply

      Jennifer, that’s a great approach to everything. Fortunately for me, my parents did do a lot of those things – taught me good money management, for example. It led me to choose a cheaper undergraduate option because I knew law school was going to be expensive so I only had $5k in debt from undergrad (though, because it was a no-name school, it did have a substantial impact on the law schools I was able to get into. And I’m not just saying that, professors/admissions people/lawyers told me that). Unfortunately, as Emily points out above, in the US there is a HUGE stigma attached to not pursuing higher education and in not doing so immediately. The longer one waits to go to school – or the longer they take to complete college – the more difficult it becomes for them in the job market. A dear friend of mine is facing this issue right now, he spends most of his time in the interviews he manages to get explaining in painstaking detail why he chose to take some time off, etc. In other countries, that stigma does not exist. Young people are encourage to take gap years and explore the world. They are encourage to work before entering university (or at the very least, not discouraged from doing so), they are also not told that a BA is the only path to success. The statistics show that there has been a huge decline in vocational/trade schools in the US because of the stigma attached to not having a Bachelors degree. Similar things are happening at the PhD level – years ago, in the early 1900s, people didn’t consider becoming a professor as the only legitimate end result for PhDs. It was perfectly acceptable for PhDs in History (for example) to work in our National Parks or in small museums, etc. But now, if you have a PhD and aren’t a professor, there is a stigma of failure attached. At any rate, I applaud you for your approach and what you’ve encouraged your kids to do. Best of luck to you and to them, and thanks for your comment. Please do share this article and consider subscribing for future updates. – Ben

  2. Phuc April 8, 2015 - 1:23 am Reply

    Hi, I am Phuc. My fymily living at Ho Chi Minh City. Nice to meet you. Hope i can help you when come to Viet Nam

    • highsocietyhobo April 8, 2015 - 1:26 am Reply

      Thanks PUC!

  3. Linda Mann January 13, 2015 - 2:11 pm Reply

    Love your passion! I so want to travel more & you help me realize that it is possible. Amazing work, wonderful stories, and great information about your travel tips/pointers.

    • highsocietyhobo January 13, 2015 - 2:38 pm Reply

      Thanks, Linda! Please help me spread the word, share my posts, sign up to follow by email, etc. Miss you!

  4. Abhinav Kathuria November 27, 2014 - 5:44 pm Reply

    I hope we’d share a lot of bizarre stories and experiences in Zostel Jaipur, over a cup of coffee

    • highsocietyhobo November 28, 2014 - 4:55 am Reply

      I’m sure we will!

  5. Allya November 20, 2014 - 1:36 pm Reply

    Ben, this is great! Read about your affair in Amsterdam, I would have freaked out and ran screaming!:)

    • highsocietyhobo November 20, 2014 - 3:50 pm Reply

      Haha. Yeah, it was something else!

  6. Jacci Connell July 13, 2014 - 2:07 am Reply

    I’ve enjoyed the posts so far. Keep them coming!

    • highsocietyhobo December 5, 2014 - 10:45 am Reply

      Thanks Jacci! Please spread the word :).

Your thoughts are appreciated!